A Different Coupon Journey
This is a guest post from Jay at ROC Coupons who will give us the male-shopping-with-coupons perspective.
Just over a year ago I was laid off from my profession as a radio broadcaster. Since that time I have been a stay at home parent to my son who is now 3 ½ years old. I dove into the couponing world hard core when it became time to stretch the family dollar as far as it could during this difficult economic time for our family and our country as a whole. Through the help of great blogs such as Coupons Deals & More and a few others out there I’ve been able to save a significant amount of money on groceries and other household necessities.
This story isn’t new. There are many others just like it. What makes my story unique is that I am a proud coupon using dude. There aren’t many men out there doing their best impersonation of Michael Keaton at the poker table in the movie Mr Mom. Aside from pizza coupons, it’s not considered very cool to get caught using them. I’ve saved tons and no longer care what my friends say. Let me tell you though shopping with coupons for me isn’t as easy as clip and hand to the cashier.
I was unaware of the troubles I would run into as a couponing dude. Three out of four shopping trips a cashier gives me a difficult time using 100% legit coupons. I don’t know why exactly this happens but I have theories. Is it because I shop during the day when most men my age are working? Is it the way I dress as a Western New York redneck in his best denim, thermals, and flannel? Or is it simply because I’m a man and since men don’t normally use coupons one who is must be up to no good?
Unfortunately I can’t answer this question. I have however developed a system by which I can cut down these unfortunate disputes with cashiers. Doing so however violates most known man rules of the checkout.
Let’s say for example the grocery store has three lanes open. Lane #1 has 5 customers in it, Lane #2 has 3 customers in it and Lane #3 has only 1 customer in it? Which do you choose?
The answer isn’t as simple as it seems. A woman would choose #3 because it is the shortest. A man all by himself chooses the most attractive cashier. In the absence of one he then selects by shortest line size. Amendment to that is if he is with his wife or girlfriend, he then chooses the shortest line except if that line has an attractive cashier.
Now couponing dude has to throw all the above rules out the window. I try to always choose a male cashier, preferable younger. They are the best because 9 times out of 10 hate their job and are very apathetic towards it. Standing and scanning food isn’t cool work. No girls are impressed when you tell them you’re a cashier. The chances of them arguing about coupons with you is slim and none.
The next best choice of a cashier is anyone who could have been on the show Golden Girls. A friendly Betty White type would be my ideal cashier. They think it’s adorable and cute and whatnot that a man and his little boy are saving big on groceries with coupons. I always get complements on the savings. They are pleasant as the day is long.
Other than that I try and void all other women cashiers. My age, younger, older, it doesn’t matter. Why must they always give me a hard time? I’m out to save money, not scam the stores. Why act like they personally own the store and I’m trying to rob their family. They adjust their glasses multiple times, give me looks, dig through the just bagged groceries to check for “something”, re-read the coupon with their finger, accuse me of photocopying internet coupons because I have 2 like coupons. Oh there’s tons more.
So what happens when confronted? Be polite and try and explain the coupon dispute as calmly and as slowly as possible. If they still choose to be obstinate then ask to speak with a manager. Most of the time the manager will see things more logically. If they don’t then ask to void your entire order (they hate that) and come back another day. Chances are there will be a different cashier working. Look for a dude or someone from St Olaf.







That is so true about the young “dude” cashiers! I don’t get to target to often, but last time I went a had a ton of coupons. Although all the coupons were legit, I was prepaired for the hassle I had the last time.
I pushed my cart into the young dudes lane, every darn coupon beeped and he smacked the register each time making them go through. You could tell he would rather be anywhere else then checking out groceries. He never smiled or even spoke to me, but I’d much rather have him then the woman I had last time!
I so agree…I definitely profile my cashiers. I really don’t know why they feel like we’re trying to steal. Couponing is not illegal. We just want to make the best deal there is. I know, I know, there are always those out there that do things illegally, but what ever happened to innocent until proven guilty?
You are right and it is not just a male thing either. I prefer a well seasoned cashier with a good understanding that I am helping my household save money and the store make money. I would also like to add that young cashiers (female) become upset becasue we find another deal then their store discount.
I think the cashiers don’t realize that the store is getting paid back for the manufacturers coupon. They should consider the coupon just the same as cash.
I LOVE the non-couponing man logic for picking a cashier. I need to break it down for myself as simply as you have. I always think I pick the best, most coupon-friendly cashier but usually end up with the grouch. Great post!
Too funny! I also tend to get given more grief when I use coupons during the day. I usually scope out the coupon action in the line in front of me. If I get a hint of trouble I switch lines.
It tends to be the older cashiers that give me the worst trouble! I try to shop now in the evening hours because that’s when a lot of the high school and college kids are working. The are usually the most coupon friendly.
I just wish my hubby would find couponing as “enjoyable” as you do… He’s admitted that the only thing he enjoyed about couponing is all the free or close to free products we have while I’m the one doing the couponing. He HATES grocery shopping with me when I have to use coupons on everything I can find a coupon for.
I’m a dude as well but I haven’t encountered many problems. Although you certainly want to avoid grumpy or harried cashiers, my goal is to establish myself from day one as someone who is congenial and exceptionally organized. I also make it a point to never use coupons that are borderline until I’ve used that cashier a few times. Then, like today, I point out borderline coupons in advance, saying “I think this will work. Let’s try it.” My goal is to have them look forward to checking me out and sharing money saving ideas with them.